For all my life, I have misunderstood what true humility looks like.  Humility is almost universally taught as the being self-effacing and making yourself lower than others.  True humility is about finding the proper balance between arrogance and self-effacement.

The goal of Humility practice is to find the proper balance between your needs and the needs of others.

Too Little Humility: Arrogance
Too Much Humility: Self effacement/doormat-like behavior
Spectrum of Humility
Spectrum of Humility

Mantra

No more than my space, no less than my place.” – Alan Morinis, Everyday Holiness 


Action

If you tend towards too little Humility, speak out less and focus on listening.
If you tend towards too much Humility, speak out more and let your voice be heard.
You don’t need to do anything dramatic – just take a small step outside of your comfort zone.

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