What Women Want Part 1



What Women Want (Song of Solomon 1:1-4)


In our study to treat women right we will take an in depth look at the life of King Solomon and the Love of his life.  It was the relationship of these two people who inspired the book in the Bible called Song of Solomon.  King Solomon obviously knew how to treat women right if his love said he was, "more wonderful than any other." (Song of Solomon 1:1 NLT)
or as Mel Gibson might say after his movie in 2000, "What Women Want."

Attention all boys & men!  If you want the ladies in your life to think you are more wonderful than any other you must have three things: a personal relationship with them, pleasant hygiene, & a pleasing name.

At first glance, these things don't seem like that big of a deal but sometimes it's the small things that make a lasting impression on a woman. There is nothing complicated in these three things, nothing exceptionally difficult. But the things on this list could make the difference between convincing the woman of your dreams you are more wonderful than any of the other guys out there or letting the love of your life marry some other guy.

Let's take a look at the first thing on the list, a personal relationship.  Song of Solomon's Love says to him (Song of Solomon 1:2), "kiss me again and again for your love is sweeter than wine."  I know what some of you are thinking but before you get too carried away let me explain what this means.

In the first century when this was written, it was a common custom for people to kiss each other on the cheek when they met to display their love, sincere affection and friendship for one another.  This greeting kiss, however, is not exactly like a handshake in our society. Today we will shake hands with almost anyone we meet but the kiss of the first century was reserved for those closest to you.  

With that understanding in mind, you can see that when Solomon's love was asking him to "kiss her again and again" it more than likely didn't have anything to do with the physical act of a kiss at all.  She was asking him to get to know her more and more as they developed a deeper relationship.

Does this mean that women don't like to be romanced?  Of course not, but more important than buying them gifts and taking them on dates, women want their men to get to know them again and again.  Become their friend, and not just any friend, the type of friend that would have been close enough to greet with a kiss if we had lived in the first century.

Falling in love is easy, it can happen in minutes.  But being in love is not enough.  The most successful marriages are those in which the husband and wife are also best friends and becoming best friends is something that takes an investment of time again and again.

I do consider my amazing wife, Alana, to be my best friend. There is simply no other person in this entire world that I would rather be with or have a conversation with.  We have been through so much together and there is no one that I feel more comfortable, or more like myself, with. 

Being best friends means you take time out of your day to talk, laugh, and just have fun getting to know one another again and again.  Most nights long after the kids have gone to bed, I have watched one of my shows, and Alana has spent some time on pinterest or playing a game on her phone all the electronics get shut off and we just spend time talking as we lay in bed!  Some of our best memories as a married couple have come because of this special time we have spent together becoming best friends and developing a personal relationship with one another.



A couple of thought provoking questions:

Is your relationship with your spouse based too much on the physical and not enough on a friendship?

Do you consistently invest time getting to know your spouse, or boyfriend/girlfriend?

Is the person you are currently in a relationship with your best friend?  If not why not?


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