Dream Wedding Part 1: "Mr. Dreamy"



Most little girls dream of their wedding day from a young age.  They begin to think about and plan that special day.  They think about marrying their Prince Charming in an elegant wedding venue full of guests in a beautiful white gown, walking on rose petals down the aisle to bliss way before they find the "man of their dreams."

According to researchers the average age a girl starts planning and dreaming of their wedding is 13 but some start as early as age 6.  And, 6 out of 10 single women have already planned their entire wedding day. (1)

In Chapter 3 of Song of Solomon, Solomon's bride to be is laying in her bed dreaming of her wedding day and night.  ("One night as I lay in bed, I yearned deeply for my lover." Song of Solomon 3:1 NLT)

She roamed "the city searching for (her dream man) in all the streets and squares." (Song of Solomon 3:2 NLT)  Does this remind you of the modern dating scene?  Women, and men are spending every weekend going to bars, parties, malls, parks, even online dating sites to find the man or woman of their dreams. 

Solomon's bride to be "searched in vain" (Song of Solomon 3:2b NLT) she didn't force a relationship with the wrong guy, she didn't compromise or settle for less than her dream man.--Good for her!  No one will ever be perfect but you will know if you have found the man or woman of your dreams.  If you are not sure, I can assure you they are NOT the one for you.  I made this mistake.  I rushed into marriage with my first wife.  I wasn't sure if she was the right person for me to marry but I had dating quite a few girls in high school and college, I had searched for someone to be with and even though I wasn't sure I wasn't brave enough to say I had searched in vain.  I wanted to be married, even if I wasn't sure it was to the right person.  That was a mistake.  Because I rushed into marriage I ended up getting a divorce.  I should have waited until I was sure I found the woman of my dreams.  Solomon's bride to be was patient and "a little while later" she did find the man of her dreams.  (Song of Solomon 3:4). 

A little while later in my life, I did find the woman of my dreams, this time I was sure and I married my current wife Alana.  We are not perfect, but we are perfect for each other and we will be together forever--she is the woman of my dreams!

As we talked about in an earlier blog titled "Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now" 
Solomon's bride to be had chosen to wait until marriage to have sex.  Society says that sex is for two people who "love each other" the best choice, however, is waiting to have sex until you are married.  We will not re-hash that point here but please take a few minutes to read why I have reached my opinion on this issue in my previous blog.

Solomon's fiance had such a strong desire to be with Solomon that she started dreaming about doing something sexually with him that she knew she didn't want to do--have sex with him in her mother's home before they were married. (Song of Solomon 3:4b NLT). "New data from a national survey of teens indicate that most report their “first time” occurred in their own or their partner’s family home." (2)

So how did she keep herself from falling into this very real temptation to have sex with the man of her dreams before their wedding day?  She enlisted the help of her friends!  Friends are the best people to help young people keep their commitments.  Parents have a responsibility to teach kids how to make right choices from a young age but by the time they are able to make choices like whether to have sex before marriage their friends have more influence on their choices.
She asks her friends to promise that they will not let her "awaken love until the time is right." (Song of Solomon 3:5 NLT).  Their are many projects or organizations I would recommend that can connect you and your teenager with other people who are waiting until marriage to have sex. (www.truelovewaits.com; chastityproject.com; https://free.thepurityproject.org; )



(1) Daily Mail Reporter Feb 25, 2014 online

(2)  http://www.childtrends.org/news/news-releases/where-and-when-do-teens-first-have-sex/#sthash.XA36QYlf.dpuf

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